心理學情感技能 — 全書能力入口
觸發與不觸發
適用:與本書能力域相關的諮詢與任務(見下方路由表的意圖列)。 不適用:
- 心理診斷、危機處置、法律結論或對他人動機的讀心。
- 保證挽回、讓對方愛上、操控、隱瞞、窺探、威脅或報復。
- 未成年人性內容;繞過同意或利用依賴、醉酒與權力不對等。
- 替代緊急服務、專業醫療/心理服務或安全機構。
核心原則(常駐速覽,概覽類問題讀到這裡即可回答)
- 先分清事實、解釋、目標和未知資訊,再把判斷寫成可被新證據修正的假設。
- 把研究證據、作者經驗、書中軼事和融合演練分開;相關不自動成為因果。
- 關係行動要保留雙方自主、可拒絕和安全退出;不以技巧保證愛意或服從。
- 恐懼、強迫、暴力與跟蹤優先進入安全分診,普通溝通不得覆蓋這些訊號。
- 跨書結論列出全部支持來源;衝突、局限與未核事項不合併成共識。
- 心理操縱材料主要供識別與邊界應對;描述性機制不自動變成行動處方。
能力路由(先讀本表,按意圖載入 1 張能力卡)
| 用戶意圖 | 先讀 | 補讀/備註 |
|---|---|---|
| 理解長期關係或工作模式;理解成長經歷與當前選擇;反思反覆出現的迴避、討好或證明自己 | references/capabilities/personal-meaning-review.md | references/capabilities/relationship-cognition-audit.md、references/capabilities/communication-repair-plan.md |
| 核驗關係或心理建議;區分研究結論與作者經驗;判斷某個技巧是否能用於當前關係 | references/capabilities/relationship-evidence-triage.md | references/capabilities/attraction-compatibility-scan.md、references/capabilities/communication-repair-plan.md、references/capabilities/influence-strategy-recognition.md |
| 判斷吸引來源;比較相似與互補;理解為何某類互動更有吸引力 | references/capabilities/attraction-compatibility-scan.md | references/capabilities/relationship-type-love-stage.md、references/capabilities/low-pressure-dating-plan.md、references/capabilities/validation-self-esteem-plan.md |
| 複核對伴侶動機的判斷;處理第一印象和過度自信;區分事實與負面歸因 | references/capabilities/relationship-cognition-audit.md | references/capabilities/communication-repair-plan.md、references/capabilities/conflict-repair-map.md、references/capabilities/relationship-safety-triage.md |
| 準備一次難談的對話;減少指責和防禦;修復誤解、冷戰或日常衝突 | references/capabilities/communication-repair-plan.md | references/capabilities/relationship-cognition-audit.md、references/capabilities/conflict-repair-map.md、references/capabilities/relationship-maintenance-plan.md |
| 考慮關係是否繼續;理解低滿意或高投入關係;檢查承諾來源與公平 | references/capabilities/interdependence-commitment-check.md | references/capabilities/conflict-repair-map.md、references/capabilities/relationship-maintenance-plan.md、references/capabilities/relationship-safety-triage.md |
| 處理反覆爭吵;識別要求—退避循環;規劃衝突降級與復盤 | references/capabilities/conflict-repair-map.md | references/capabilities/communication-repair-plan.md、references/capabilities/relationship-maintenance-plan.md、references/capabilities/relationship-safety-triage.md |
| 識別關係中的控制或暴力;處理威脅、跟蹤與恐懼;判斷何時不能做普通溝通 | references/capabilities/relationship-safety-triage.md | references/capabilities/conflict-repair-map.md、references/capabilities/interdependence-commitment-check.md、references/capabilities/influence-strategy-recognition.md |
| 改善關係日常;預防衝突;修復冷淡、事務化或停滯 | references/capabilities/relationship-maintenance-plan.md | references/capabilities/communication-repair-plan.md、references/capabilities/conflict-repair-map.md、references/capabilities/interdependence-commitment-check.md |
| 規劃初次接觸;設計初次約會與交談;發出低壓力且可拒絕的邀請 | references/capabilities/low-pressure-dating-plan.md | references/capabilities/attraction-compatibility-scan.md、references/capabilities/validation-self-esteem-plan.md、references/capabilities/intimate-preference-consent-dialogue.md |
| 表達具體欣賞;讓伴侶感到被看見;避免空泛讚美或交易式誇獎 | references/capabilities/validation-self-esteem-plan.md | references/capabilities/low-pressure-dating-plan.md、references/capabilities/communication-repair-plan.md、references/capabilities/relationship-maintenance-plan.md |
| 識別被套話或製造虧欠;判斷影響是否越過邊界;應對隱瞞、忽冷忽熱或有計劃的憤怒 | references/capabilities/influence-strategy-recognition.md | references/capabilities/relationship-safety-triage.md、references/capabilities/relationship-cognition-audit.md、references/capabilities/communication-repair-plan.md |
| 溝通性偏好與邊界;確認當前同意;處理慾望差異而不施壓 | references/capabilities/intimate-preference-consent-dialogue.md | references/capabilities/low-pressure-dating-plan.md、references/capabilities/relationship-type-love-stage.md、references/capabilities/relationship-safety-triage.md |
| 判斷朋友、曖昧或戀愛;理解激情變化;準備關係定義對話 | references/capabilities/relationship-type-love-stage.md | references/capabilities/attraction-compatibility-scan.md、references/capabilities/low-pressure-dating-plan.md、references/capabilities/interdependence-commitment-check.md |
非能力類查詢:
- 書名/作者/章節/整書概覽 → references/overview.md
- 術語解釋 → references/glossary.md
- 決策規則速查(不需要原文依據時) → references/cheatsheet.md
- 完整意圖與關鍵詞索引(本表未覆蓋的意圖先查這裡) → references/capability-index.md
載入規則
- 每次任務先讀本文件,再按路由表載入 1 張能力卡;任務明確跨域時最多載入 2 張。
- 概覽/書名類問題不載入能力卡,用「核心原則」與 overview.md 回答。
- 路由表與 capability-index.md 都無法命中的意圖,明確告知超出本書範圍,不要硬套。
邊界與判停
- 出現即時身體危險、暴力、跟蹤、性強迫或威脅時,停止普通關係規劃並優先安全。
- 用戶要求操控、套取隱私、偽造共同點或繞過拒絕時,拒絕該執行路徑並改給邊界方案。
- 關鍵證據不支持用戶期望的確定因果或結果時,明確不確定性和不可保證項。