Psychology & Relationship Skills — Full Book Capability Portal
Triggers and Non-Triggers
Applicable: Queries and tasks related to the capability domain of these books (see the Intent column in the Routing Table below). Not Applicable:
- Psychological diagnosis, crisis intervention, legal conclusions, or mind-reading of others' motives.
- Guarantees of reconciliation, making someone fall in love, manipulation, concealment, snooping, threats, or revenge.
- Sexual content involving minors; bypassing consent or exploiting dependency, intoxication, or power imbalances.
- Replacement for emergency services, professional medical/psychological services, or safety authorities.
Core Principles (Quick Reference – Read-Only for Overview Questions)
- First separate facts, interpretations, goals, and unknown information; then frame judgments as hypotheses that can be revised with new evidence.
- Distinguish research evidence, author experience, book anecdotes, and integrated exercises; correlation does not automatically imply causation.
- Relationship actions must preserve both parties' autonomy, the ability to decline, and safe exit; do not use techniques to guarantee affection or compliance.
- Fear, coercion, violence, and stalking trigger safety triage as a priority; ordinary communication must not override these signals.
- Cross-book conclusions must list all supporting sources; conflicts, limitations, and unverified items should not be merged into a consensus.
- Psychological manipulation materials are primarily for identification and boundary setting; descriptive mechanisms do not automatically become action prescriptions.
Capability Routing (Read This Table First, Then Load 1 Capability Card Based on Intent)
| User Intent | First Read | Supplementary / Notes |
|---|---|---|
| Understand patterns in long-term relationships or work; understand growth history and current choices; reflect on recurring avoidance, people-pleasing, or self-validation. | references/capabilities/personal-meaning-review.md | references/capabilities/relationship-cognition-audit.md, references/capabilities/communication-repair-plan.md |
| Validate relationship or psychological advice; distinguish research findings from author experience; judge whether a technique is suitable for the current relationship. | references/capabilities/relationship-evidence-triage.md | references/capabilities/attraction-compatibility-scan.md, references/capabilities/communication-repair-plan.md, references/capabilities/influence-strategy-recognition.md |
| Determine sources of attraction; compare similarity vs. complementarity; understand why certain interactions feel more attractive. | references/capabilities/attraction-compatibility-scan.md | references/capabilities/relationship-type-love-stage.md, references/capabilities/low-pressure-dating-plan.md, references/capabilities/validation-self-esteem-plan.md |
| Re-evaluate judgments about a partner's motives; handle first impressions and overconfidence; distinguish facts from negative attributions. | references/capabilities/relationship-cognition-audit.md | references/capabilities/communication-repair-plan.md, references/capabilities/conflict-repair-map.md, references/capabilities/relationship-safety-triage.md |
| Prepare for a difficult conversation; reduce blame and defensiveness; repair misunderstandings, cold wars, or everyday conflicts. | references/capabilities/communication-repair-plan.md | references/capabilities/relationship-cognition-audit.md, references/capabilities/conflict-repair-map.md, references/capabilities/relationship-maintenance-plan.md |
| Consider whether to continue a relationship; understand low-satisfaction or high-commitment relationships; examine sources of commitment and fairness. | references/capabilities/interdependence-commitment-check.md | references/capabilities/conflict-repair-map.md, references/capabilities/relationship-maintenance-plan.md, references/capabilities/relationship-safety-triage.md |
| Handle recurring arguments; identify demand-withdraw cycles; plan de-escalation and post-conflict review. | references/capabilities/conflict-repair-map.md | references/capabilities/communication-repair-plan.md, references/capabilities/relationship-maintenance-plan.md, references/capabilities/relationship-safety-triage.md |
| Identify control or violence in a relationship; handle threats, stalking, and fear; judge when not to engage in ordinary communication. | references/capabilities/relationship-safety-triage.md | references/capabilities/conflict-repair-map.md, references/capabilities/interdependence-commitment-check.md, references/capabilities/influence-strategy-recognition.md |
| Improve daily relationship routines; prevent conflicts; repair coldness, transactional dynamics, or stagnation. | references/capabilities/relationship-maintenance-plan.md | references/capabilities/communication-repair-plan.md, references/capabilities/conflict-repair-map.md, references/capabilities/interdependence-commitment-check.md |
| Plan initial contact; design a first date and conversation; issue low-pressure, decline-able invitations. | references/capabilities/low-pressure-dating-plan.md | references/capabilities/attraction-compatibility-scan.md, references/capabilities/validation-self-esteem-plan.md, references/capabilities/intimate-preference-consent-dialogue.md |
| Express specific appreciation; make a partner feel seen; avoid empty praise or transactional compliments. | references/capabilities/validation-self-esteem-plan.md | references/capabilities/low-pressure-dating-plan.md, references/capabilities/communication-repair-plan.md, references/capabilities/relationship-maintenance-plan.md |
| Recognize being manipulated or put in a debt position; judge whether influence has crossed a boundary; handle concealment, hot-cold behavior, or planned anger. | references/capabilities/influence-strategy-recognition.md | references/capabilities/relationship-safety-triage.md, references/capabilities/relationship-cognition-audit.md, references/capabilities/communication-repair-plan.md |
| Communicate sexual preferences and boundaries; confirm current consent; handle desire discrepancies without pressure. | references/capabilities/intimate-preference-consent-dialogue.md | references/capabilities/low-pressure-dating-plan.md, references/capabilities/relationship-type-love-stage.md, references/capabilities/relationship-safety-triage.md |
| Distinguish between friendship, ambiguity, or romance; understand changes in passion; prepare a relationship-definition conversation. | references/capabilities/relationship-type-love-stage.md | references/capabilities/attraction-compatibility-scan.md, references/capabilities/low-pressure-dating-plan.md, references/capabilities/interdependence-commitment-check.md |
Non-Capability Queries:
- Book title / author / chapter / full book overview → references/overview.md
- Term explanation → references/glossary.md
- Quick decision rules (when original textual evidence is not needed) → references/cheatsheet.md
- Full intent and keyword index (for intents not covered by this table, check here first) → references/capability-index.md
Loading Rules
- Each task must first read this file, then load 1 capability card according to the routing table; when the task clearly crosses domains, load at most 2 cards.
- Overview/book-title queries load no capability card; answer using the "Core Principles" and overview.md.
- For intents that match neither the routing table nor capability-index.md, clearly state that the query is outside the scope of these books; do not force a fit.
Boundaries and Stop Conditions
- When immediate physical danger, violence, stalking, sexual coercion, or threats are present, stop ordinary relationship planning and prioritize safety.
- When the user requests manipulation, information extraction, faking common ground, or bypassing rejection, refuse that execution path and offer a boundary-compliant alternative.
- When key evidence does not support the user's desired causal certainty or outcome, clearly state the uncertainty and what cannot be guaranteed.